Sunday, July 19, 2015

To parents who bring their kids to the playground

I am thankful I have a job that allows me to leave the office at 5:00pm so I can have time to bring my toddler to the playground. No, my job is not easy. In fact, it's very challenging; but, it gives me flexibility so I can spend quality time with my son.

I've been bringing my kid to the playground for two years now and I've observed a lot of things happen there especially on how parents and kids interact with each other. I've learned valuable lessons too.

Here's my unsolicited pieces of advice to parents who bring their kids to the playground and a reminder to myself as well:

1. When we're at the playground with our kids, let's be totally involved in being there with them. Unless we're taking videos or photos of our kids (which we also need to limit so we'll have more enjoyable time with them), let's put down our phones. Please.

2. Play with them! Having a toddler is having the greatest opportunity to be a kid again and to be better at it! Pretend you're a pirate who is waiting to capture them down the slide or a dragon who is running after them. Sure, you'll look stupid but who cares? To your kid, you're a rock star!

3. Praise them for their accomplishments. If they were able to enjoy the swing on their own (of course, ensure to provide support for younger kids or if it's their first time), or go down the slide with minimal supervision, appreciate them!

4. Challenge them to try new things. There are tube slides at the playground here at our place that are for older kids and whenever my son wants to try to slide down there, we used to tell him "no". But, there came a point when we know he can already tackle the slide so we challenged him to go for it. The result? He went up and down that same tube slide for about 20 minutes in one afternoon and he didn't even use the ladder/stairs! They need to know you are confident that they can handle new things.

5. Watch them carefully. In my recent article, I shared about my kid being bitten by an older child in a tube slide while they were there for less than a minute. So, we should be all eyes especially for toddlers who can't communicate yet if they're injured or if someone hurt them.

6. Communicate appropriately. It broke my heart one time to see a mom yelling at her 2-year-old kid for going somewhere dangerous. Yes, what the kid did was not acceptable but the public didn't need to hear all the yelling. When there's disobedience, let's talk to our kids privately and properly.

7. Teach them to make friends. Encourage them to talk to other kids or just say "hi" or play with them. Especially for toddlers who aren't schooling yet, the playground is the best place to socialize.

Kids grow up so fast so let's enjoy every play time we can spend with them.

Friday, July 17, 2015

When your kid is bitten by another child

My 2 years and 5 months old Quest was bitten by an older kid at the mall playground this evening. I was watching him closely as he played when I saw an older girl (about 7 years old) hold Quest's hand and pulled him inside the tube slide. I thought it was sweet that he has a sort of a big sister at the playground.

 After about a minute, I saw Quest come out of the tube slide crying in pain. I quickly hugged him and asked what was wrong. My mom suggested to check Quest for any injury and that's when we saw two bites on his right arm. It broke my heart. I asked the girl but she said it wasn't her fault and she didn't know about it. We even talked to the father but we were just told, "where's your proof that my kid did it?" I said his girl was the last person my son was with in the slide and he came out with two bites. My Mom still wanted to discuss with him but the moment the father asked for a proof, I knew it's not worth talking to him.

 To all parents who bring their kids to play dates or to the mall play ground, especially if your kids are toddlers, I suggest:

1. Watch them very closely and look in the tube slide or at every corner of the playground. Make sure you know what your toddler is doing and where he or she is all the time. We were confident that Quest can play along with older kids but we never thought of him getting bitten.

 2. Unless your taking pictures or videos of your kid at play, put down your phone. I wasn't using my phone when the bite happened.

3. Be strong for your kid. Pain is inevitable. And the moment they are in pain or injured, they need to know they can depend on you to assure them that there's nothing to worry about.

4. Pray without ceasing. (1 Thessalonians 5:17)

Please view this link also for Babycenter's advice on Human Bites:

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Lessons on Marriage & Family Life that I learned from my Parents

  1. Make God the center of your relationship and involve your kids in the ministry;

2. Show your kids how sweet you are and say I love you as often as possible;

3. Agree on your prayers,dreams and visions for your family and treat your kids as teamplayers - not merely audience;

4. If you want your kids to be interested in music, reading, continuous learning, traveling, house chores or any other hobby/task, show them that you're interested on those too;

5. There is no perfect relationship; thus, it is a must to focus on what you love about each other and help each other become a better person;

Happy 34th Wedding Anniversary, Papa and Mama! We love you!

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Quest at 3 months

I'm now 3 months old and God continues to bless me abundantly! Let's have a recap:

I began to say "ah-goo", "ah-woo" and I also love to smile.

On 5th April, we went to Nanay's office and her officemates adored me! Their clerk, Aizan, even tried to sing Twinkle, Twinkle, little star for me but I started to cry.

On 7th April, I attended church with Tatay for the first time. The room is comfortably cool so I was asleep during the entire service.

At 2 months and 9 days, on the evening of 11 April, I slept for 5 hours straight. And my Nanay had a great sleep!

I can already roll to one side at 2 months and a half.

Had my first visit at the park in a carrier then the second time, in a stroller, and I loved the feel of the wind on my face and the smell of fresh air. I cried though because I was not comfortable when I can't move freely.

Had my first bouncy seat, which I use during playtime, sing-a-long time and reading time.

I visited Tita Ruth's office and charmed the customers and even her boss. See, Ms. Zaiton is carrying me!

At 2 months and 23 days, I can already lie on my tummy on my own.

Tatay did these for me too!

Until next month! :)

Thursday, May 2, 2013

Thank you, Lolo and Lola!

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Dear Lolo Jun and Lola Loida,

You left the comforts of your home just to help us out. 

You were so elated when we met at the hospital for the first time. Right then and there, I knew I was loved.

You took great care of me - washed and ironed my clothes, bathed me and cleaned me up whenever I pooped. You fed me, cleaned my bottles and rocked me to sleep, among other things.

You went to church with us even though we know that you miss CBC very badly.

We went out also and you even accompanied me and Nanay in applying for my birth certificate and passport at the Philippine Embassy. 

Each time you carry me in your arms, talk to me and give me kisses, I realize more that I am adored and well-loved. 

We also went to Billionth Barrel Monument, which is just near our house.

We went to the airport in March to pick up Tatay and I remember that you were as excited as I to see Tatay again!

We also had some trips at the park and around town.

You also accompanied us when we had to collect my passport.

We even did a side trip to Bukit Shahbandar where Nanay and Tatay used to hike.

On 4 May, we went to the airport after dropping by Sultan Omar Ali Saifuddin Mosque for some photoshoot. And on our way there, I remember staring at your faces. I was trying to memorize them so everytime I start to miss you, I will just close my eyes and remember your smile and your love-filled stares at me.

I know we will see each other again very soon but while we're apart, you can rest assured that Tatay, Nanay & Tita Ruth will take good care of me. Thank you for your love, kindness and prayers. 

No need to say goodbye...

We love you, Lolo and Lola! We'll miss you very much!